Create a LIFELONG Bond with Your Child Today!
Bond with Your Child for LIFE. Filling your children’s life with Positive Childhood memories is an amazing and beneficial thing to do. I still have fond childhood memories of day trips to the park and beach. These childhood memories give me a warm feeling of simpler days and good times. I want my children to look back and have fond memories of their childhood.
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With this in mind we recently we went on a trip to the beach with our son who is a little older but not too old for a trip to the seaside. Although he did take a little persuading to leave his X Box for the day.😖
As part of this day out we went to a caravan site we’d been to many times and revisited some of the things we used to do. It was lovely to hear him recount stories and fun times we’d had as a family.😊😊
For me this re-enforced the power of doing things together and building positive memories. Especially when they are younger.
This seems obvious doesn’t it. As a family you’ll do nice things and have nice memories but life doesn’t always work out like that.
The lesson I took was the importance of making an effort and spending time together. Seize the moment and Create a LIFELONG Bond with Your Child Today!
I’m not talking about spending money. I’m talking about making memories.
Bond with Your Child for LIFE!
So for instance the place we went to had a stony beach and one of the things we/he likes to do is skim the stones into the sea, counting the bounces (6 is his record). On this day the family on the other side of the rocks were trying to hit an old metal pole sticking out of the sea . He loved this and we had an impromptu competition. Every so often there would be a clang and we’d cheer. It was great fun and we really got into it. It was definitely a boy thing i thing, at least in our family. The ladies of the family were suitably unimpressed.
The point is that its not about spending lots of money its about doing things together. Creating memories together. Connecting and having fun.
It is so easy for children to get immersed into technology and being honest it suits parents as it keeps children quiet and occupied. Here comes the but, but what memories are being created?
Children grow quickly and move on. As they get older they won’t want you to hold them, won’t look to you as a role model. Will spend more time apart from you. This is part of growing up and inevitable so building memories together is so important. Children grow up quickly and now even more quickly.
Don’t miss out. Take the time and make the effort to make those positive memories with your family. Its so worth it.
I suppose its all about balance. Work life balance an balancing the time you spend with your children and when you do spend time together spending quality time together. If your going on holiday and putting you children into a kids club its great it keeps them entertained but also make sure you spend time with them. Don’t just be the parent on the sunbed. Take the time to Bond with Your Child.
Don’t just take our word for it see this report from the National Library of Medicine
If its hard connecting with your child.
It can be hard connecting with your children. Their world may be very different to yours. What they want to do is probably different to what you are comfortable doing. Find something you can both enjoy ideally or take the leap and do something totally alien or boring to you, but something they enjoy. I’m sure they’ll love the fact you’ve taken the time and made the effort to do something together.
Your child may annoy you. You can’t spend time together. What then?
The first thing is to be realistic about this. You or your child are not bad people, your just different people. There is nothing that says just because their your child your going to connect and have a wonderful relationship all the time. Your probably not. There maybe periods where you can’t speak to each other without arguing. You can’t be in the same room. Your child’s interest may bore you to tears and you cannot fake an interest. Your not alone, so many parents have these feeling but we feel guilty for think like this. We shouldn’t its just a human reaction.
Accept it for what it is. An imperfect relationship you need to work at. Avoid the things you clash on. Concentrate on common ground. May sure you child understands although you may disagree on things you still absolutely love and cherish them. Building or repairing a relationship takes work. However much their interests aren’t your’s take an interest and try. Little steps really help. Try to find joy and common ground to create than memory. Come to an agreement, i’ll play this is you come with me here.
You’ll both hate it but it’s a way of creating a bond. These memories are what parenting is all about.
This blog was written by a parent of three adopted children. Unfortunately they cannot share details of themselves but these parents have lived (and live) with immense challenges and over come stubborn obstacles to build a relationship with all three children.
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